The title of this post from the Seeds 4 Life caught my eye, as I have been learning about the deception of excuses. (Link to the post is at the bottom of this post)I’ve been able to take a great course from Selfhelpworks.com that has helped me change my thinking for eating healthier, which in turn is helping me achieve my initial goal of losing weight. These programs actually teach that rationalizations and excuses are LIES and that we are never without a choice. While the subjects of these courses and the post from The Seeds For Life are different, they both say the same thing. Excuses keep people in their comfort zone and hinder sucess.
To succeed at anything, you need to expand your possibilities and take steps out of that comfort zone. You need to look at your excuses and examine them against what outcomes you want and then make your choice. For example, I kept saying to myself that I’ll start eating better later because it’s a pain to make different food for my partner and myself. I would also tell myself that I need to eat those donuts in the cupboard because I was hungry, they were getting stale so my partner wouldn’t eat them, and they couldn’t go to waste. I don’t like donuts either, but that’s why I’ve gained more than 20 lbs in less than 9 years and is probably responsible for my lack of energy and fatigue (along with low iron and vitamin D, which I’m taking vitamins for). Every time I weighed myself, found my waistband too tight, or lamented on my increasing bust line, I would think “I need to lose weight.” The most I would do was track how many steps I took in a day, but did nothing about my diet. I once again let my partner dictate how I lived, even though it wasn’t how I wanted to live. I’m not a big sweets or fat-loaded food eater, but I became one over the years, and it was a hard habit to break. I knew that I didn’t “want” the stuff I was eating, but it was a habit. I wanted to eat, sometimes because I was hungry and sometimes because I wanted to “feel better” and so I’d grab ready-made convenience food. Afterward, I would feel tired and sick to my stomach after I ate way too many sweets or chips & dip. I satisfied my mental hunger/craving but my body didn’t feel better. My true choice was between eating something full of sugar or fat, feel like crap afterward and gain more weight OR chose to eat healthier foods so my body would feel better and I would lose weight.
Basically, it’s a normal human habit to make a goal or have a desire, but then make excuses to stay in our habitual comfort zone. I realized this and started to make more healthy eating choices more often than not. Now that my doctor has officially told me I have to lower my cholesterol, I didn’t have a hard time replacing butter on my baked potato with garlic infused olive oil, or choosing something other than a hamburger at the fast food joint (which sometimes means waiting until I get home to eat). In all honesty, I was never a big hamburger fan, but if we were out and passing a burger joint, I would feel hungry and want one.
I know a lot of you out there are bloggers that want to do more writing–and the Seeds 4 Life post hits on the “I don’t have time” excuse we pretty much all use. We don’t have time for a half hour of exercise (or writing, etc), but can spend an hour a night watching TV. What’s more important–doing what we say we want to do or watching that TV program? Do you want to live in the shoulda/coulda/woulda world of excuses? Or would you rather be a willing participant in life by choosing to do what you want to do?
Remember, the choice is ALWAYS up to you! I do recommend the Selfhelpworks courses if you need help losing weight, stoping smoking, dealing with stress. They are common sense courses that, more than anything, give you the responsibility and choice to change. It’s not about depriving oneself, it’s about making the choice that will improve your life. The courses are $199 each but could be free to you if your employer or health insurance rewards program has partnered with them. For example, I have the HumanaVitality rewards program, and due to my weight and BMI, I had a goal in the program to lose weight and look the LivingLean course (for FREE) as part of the goal. I’m also going through the smoking cessation course so I can help my partner when she is finally ready to quit.